How They Do It– ‘Family Is A Jewish Value. Don’t Let The Mistakes Of A Few Rob Us Of That Gift’

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ed note–the ‘mistakes’ of a ‘few’ Jews…

1. Abraham, a ‘family man’, sells his wife Sarah into a life of sexual slavery for his own enrichment, is caught and is kicked out of Egypt. Before entering Gerar, he does it again.

2. Abraham’s son, Isaac, also a ‘family man’, does the very same thing with his wife, Rebeccah.

3. Lott, Abraham’s nephew, also a ‘family man’, gives his 2 virgin daughters away to a group of gang-bangers from Sodom, saying ‘abuse them as you see fit…’

4. Lott’s 2 daughters, now thoroughly traumatized by ‘Pops’ giving them away as sex slaves to the gang-bangers, get their father drunk–twice–so that they can engage in father/daughter incest with him.

5. Esther, heroine of the Jewish people, sleeps her way to the top of the Persian king’s harem in order to utilize him for Jewish political purposes.

and on and on and on…

In the more modern context we have–

Sarah Silverman, the Violent, inbred, deranged Jewess who recently stated that ‘Pro-Life Laws Make Me Want To Eat An Aborted Fetus

As well as Al Goldstein–

And porn star James Deen, pictured upper left corner below, who said that ‘The Jews know we’re better than everyone else. That’s all that matters. It’s true. We’re the Chosen People. It’s a fact.

To say nothing of the role that Jews have played in destroying ‘family values’ through their control of Hollywood and their promotion of abortion, the gay sodomite lifestyle, pornography and every other form of sexual/anti-family/anti-child deviancy imaginable.

And yet, we are told  by our unesteemed Hebraic author that ‘Family Is A Jewish Value’.

We’ll spare the reader our usual extended commentary in favor of something short-n-sweet–

‘Fish swim, birds fly, and Jews lie’.

Jane Eisner The Jewish Daily Forward

I am trying to figure out when fertility became the enemy of feminism.

When caring about children and family became a misogynist act. When supporting the institution of marriage as the foundation of a healthy and stable society suddenly became an anti-woman sentiment.

Because that’s what I’m hearing in the mistaken attempts to link a couple of powerful Jewish men who’ve behaved very badly to the real and pressing concerns about the Jewish future.

The men in question are Michael Steinhardt, hedge fund billionaire and expansive philanthropist, who has been accused of multiple accounts of sexual harassment, and Steven M. Cohen, famed sociologist, who has acknowledged acting inappropriately and abusing his power over some women in his academic field.

The case against them posits that their boorish behavior reflects a disrespect for women, and this disrespect also explains their professional obsession with encouraging “continuity” — that is, encouraging the growth of Jewish families, especially (in Cohen’s case) among the non-Orthodox. To study, analyze and promote family life means to denigrate women, these critics say.

As my colleague, Batya Ungar-Sargon, wrote: “The focus on inmarriage and women’s bodies as the site where Jewish continuity must happen is sexist and homophobic.”

Well, when she puts it like that, I can see her point. By obsessing so crudely about fertility and procreation within the tribe, Steinhardt and Cohen have done a disservice to the real challenge: which is to do all we can to create a vibrant, inclusive, diverse, enticing Jewish future that puts family life as its foundation. And far from being anti-feminist, this outcome should elevate the status of women and broaden their choices. Which is what feminism is all about.

Steinhardt and Cohen are correct in pointing out that, outside the Orthodox world, Jewish men and women are marrying later or not at all, and are having fewer children and creating fewer families. Those are the facts.

This is happening not because of the misdeeds of two men, even two men with money (Steinhardt) and intellectual power (Cohen) who, the critics say, have somehow singlehandedly dominated the Jewish communal agenda and imposed their will on others.

It is happening because non-Orthodox Jewish men and women are acting like American men and women. U.S. births are at a 30-year low, marriage rates are down 9% over the past quarter century, and the share of Americans who have never married is rising.

If they do marry, Americans are increasingly selecting partners from a different religious group (though not from a different political persuasion.) Here, too, non-Orthodox Jews are simply acting like their fellow Americans, only more so.

If you view marriage as an oppressive, irrelevant institution, if you view child rearing as a burden only women bear, if you view these trends as the only natural reaction to women’s empowerment — well, I can understand why talk of a Jewish future focused on marriage and family could be seen as patriarchal and confining.

But — sorry if I offend those who hold this view — that is a misguided, self-defeating response.

Michelle Shain, an associate research scientist at Brandeis University, who was mentored (but not victimized) by Cohen, put it well in a column for the New York Jewish Week, which first reported on the allegations against both men:

“As a feminist, I wholeheartedly reject the suggestion that marriage and childbearing stand in opposition to women’s professional success and control of our bodies. This is exactly the sort of zero-sum thinking that slows the march of egalitarianism.”

She went on to point out the obvious: survey data consistently show that the vast majority of American Jewish women want to marry and have children. (I trust men feel the same.) And, therefore, “understanding the pathways and obstacles to contemporary marriage and parenthood benefits, not subjugates, Jewish women.”

To promote a Jewish future that puts marriage and children at its foundation is not to shun or shame those who choose another path. It is not to exclude those who create non-traditional families. It is not to turn away non-Jewish partners and parents.

And it certainly does not require saluting crude comments from Steinhardt, Cohen or anyone else.

Instead, it means enunciating normative Jewish values and adapting them to our contemporary situation. In my mind, that means the community should do more to encourage and support committed relationships; provide resources so that parents can balance work and family; make Jewish day school, summer camp and other educational initiatives affordable and accessible; and promote gender equality in all Jewish institutions.

If the enterprise is to continue — specifically, if egalitarian, progressive Judaism is to survive and thrive in this anti-establishment-religion moment — then one generation must beget the next. We can welcome those who want to join us without official conversion. We can expand our definition of who is a Jew.

But in the end, it is the institution of marriage — thankfully broadened now to include gays and lesbians — that provides the committed bedrock of this and any society. And it is a focus on nurturing children that creates a communal legacy.

Besides, my children — and now, my grandchildren — are the greatest joy in my life. Why wouldn’t I want everyone to share that experience?

The Ugly Truth

7 thoughts on “How They Do It– ‘Family Is A Jewish Value. Don’t Let The Mistakes Of A Few Rob Us Of That Gift’

  1. “ed note–the ‘mistakes’ of a ‘few’ Jews…
    1. Abraham, a ‘family man’, sells his wife Sarah into a life of sexual slavery for his own enrichment, is caught and is kicked out of Egypt. Before entering Gerar, he does it again.
    2. Abraham’s son, Isaac, also a ‘family man’, does the very same thing with his wife, Rebeccah.

    3. Lott, Abraham’s nephew, also a ‘family man’, gives his 2 virgin daughters away to a group of gang-bangers from Sodom, saying ‘abuse them as you see fit…’
    4. Lott’s 2 daughters, now thoroughly traumatized by ‘Pops’ giving them away as sex slaves to the gang-bangers, get their father drunk–twice–so that they can engage in father/daughter incest with him.”

    Obviously in dire need of an education.

    THOSE WERE HEBREWS, NOT jEWS, MORON!!!

    “5. Esther, heroine of the Jewish people, sleeps her way to the top of the Persian king’s harem in order to utilize him for Jewish political purposes.”

    Through my research, I’ve come to believe that THIS ‘book’ was written by jews… and has NO legitimate place in the Bible. It’s the ONLY ‘book’ that never mentions God once… as if the stinking jews had done it solo.

    ‘Fish swim, birds fly, and Jews lie’.

    UNFREAKINCHALLENGED!!!!!

    Never heard that before… BUT I LIKE IT!!! 🙂

    1. Whatever they were… Jews? Hebrews? To me the point here is that so many still revere and value those named above, in spite of what’s documented about what they did. Just does not calculate to me as righteous.

      .

          1. I meant “argue” in this capacity:

            “give reasons or cite evidence in support of an idea, action, or theory”

            I love dictionaries!

            Anyhow, just wanted to make sure my meaning was clear.

            .

  2. Ok… its jew bashing time…

    The Saudi King…The head Rabbi…Pope and Jesus had a meetup.

    They were all contemplating how to curb the sexual abuse of… children…

    Immediately the Saudi interjected. ..

    We need to cut off the popes dick for Allah.

    The Rabbi said… the Talmud says we can have sex with children under 3.

    The Pope… said… pleazzz Jesus…. just because we screw children doesn’t mean we don’t love you
    Plus those Muslims screw goats..

    Jesus… replied. ..

    Ok I forgive you…

    But in order to make things right. …

    You all have to drop your drawers and let me screw you in ass for the sins of your kid fkng.

    The Pope said… Ok leter rip.

    The Muslim said ok…. but I’m not a goat.

    The Jew said….

    Ok, but I have a Palestinian you can screw as proxy for my azz Jesus.

    Butt it’s $250 a pop.

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