We applied for an adoption of a baby in New York State in July of 1966. My husband and I were trying for a baby but it had not come to fruition. We got a beautiful baby girl on October 17, 1966 fast tracked obviously.
Presently my daughter had her DNA researched in hopes of some information she had not been able to glean. She was only able to get non-identifying information. She is 50 now and most of her adult life she has spent trying to find her mother.
She posted this on Facebook for family and closest friends:
Laura: The chances of me having such a close match on my DNA testing was remarkable. I found my first cousin he was at the top of my list. How do you even approach reaching out .well I did and he responded. From that initial contact I’ve learned my mother’s name is Judy she’s 71 in good health, I have a brother and sister. I have an aunt Peggy who has two children a boy and girl, an uncle David who has 2 girls, an aunt Nancy who is the mother of my cousin I’ve been talking to. He said my mother is a kind loving woman who wouldn’t hurt a fly but has great strength 3. My sister is a nurse, my brother a mechanic, lol we’re all in the field of helping people. My cousin is going to contact my mother this has been a lot to take in. I’m taking a deep breath. Merry Christmas to me.
I responded to the many replies and cheers with this:
Susan: I am as excited for her as she is. I have lived with this most of her life and felt helpless to be able to help. New York State has a sealed records law designed to protect the mother and for privacy leaving the child in the dark. She worked hard over the years trying to find another way. It is a very helpless feeling to know her pain and not be able to help but to be there for her. I have no problem with sharing her for I got what I wanted and that was a baby. When she was little and angry at me she would say you’re not my mother and I don’t love you. I would respond I am sorry you feel that way for I got what I wanted and that makes me very happy sorry you didn’t. That pissed her off greatly. She was not an easy child and she wore me out trying to keep her on track. I lost many a battle but loved her just the same. This is great news and maybe just maybe it will make it all right.
Her cousin requested he be the one to contact Judy and find a way to break the news to her. I am sure she will want to connect for according to Laura’s cousin she was forced to give up her baby it was not her decision.
Hoping for a happy ending.