Well done, feminism. Now men are afraid to help women at work

The Telegraph – by Martin Daubney

A new book claims that male office workers are now so afraid of being on the receiving end of a sexual harassment case, they are reluctant to mentor, assist, befriend and even hold open doors for female colleagues.

Crushingly, Sex & The Office suggests men now view such ordinary, decent behaviours as “too risky” – and, in what will be a bitter irony for equality campaigners – claims that, as a direct consequence, women are now failing to advance at work.

This terror of being accused of sexual harassment is now so common it has its own term, “backlash stress”. It sounds like something straight out of a Claims Direct ad – where the only victims are men.

The book’s author, Kim Elsesser, a research scholar at the University of California, argues that a “sex partition” has sprung up, which impedes women from building the vital network of contacts both within the workplace and socially.

And the author should know about tough working environments: she’s a former equities trader at Morgan Stanley.

Tellingly, Elsesser adds that companies themselves are contributing to this mess, as they are now so terrified of legal action they send staff on sexual harassment training courses, and are duty-bound to follow up on any allegation, however minor.

Ludicrously, Elsesser cites examples of men who have been dragged in by their HR departments for simply opening a door for a female colleague or complimenting her on a new suit. “Stories like these spread around workplaces, instilling a fear that innocent remarks will be misinterpreted,” she says.

No s**t, Sherlock!

Of course, despite the fact that it is men who are getting the rough end of the pineapple here, this is all being painted as Officially Bad For Women, as they are failing to get on.

But how are men meant to react when we’re informed that, despite decades of being told women don’t need or even want men’s help, now they’re falling behind because we’re not helping them?

A phrase involving “cake and eat it” leaps to mind – although don’t repeat it at work, as you’ll probably be frogmarched to HR for “fat shaming”.

Elsesser’s book echoes an insightful New York Post article from earlier this year called ‘Powerful Men Now Hide Behind Open Doors’.

The writer, Naomi Schaffer Riley, paints a depressingly familiar picture of university lecturers who won’t even close their office doors when alone with a female student.

It would be easy to dismiss this as yet more campus lunacy, yet Riley claims this rot runs to the very top of American society. And how soon before we start feeling ripples cross the Pond?

Riley cites a US National Journal survey where a male Congress aide said: “Several female aides have been barred from staffing their male bosses at evening events, driving alone with their congressman or senator, or even sitting down one-on-one in his office for fear that others would get the wrong impression.”

In a lawsuit-happy culture, where claims can seemingly be made on a ‘he said/she said’ basis, men are now trying to ensure their actions are always covered by a third party witness. Increasingly, they want to make sure the walls have ears – just in case something “inappropriate” is said.

A man helping a woman to exit a carHolding open a door could have drastic consequences …  Photo: Alamy

How sad. And, honestly, who’s got the foggiest clue about where “inappropriate” even begins these days? Holding open a door? Saying, “nice dress?” Smiling? Making eye contact?

By carrying on like this we are nurturing and mollycoddling victimhood and it is having profound impacts. Last month in Britain, “fearless feminist” barrister Charlotte Proudman publicly shamed Alexander Carter-Silk, 57, a senior solicitor, for complimenting her “stunning” LinkedIn profile picture – then claimed it was her career that had been “ruined”.

Amid this poisonous smog of mutual mistrust and, increasingly, contempt, is there any wonder men are becoming fearful of female co-workers?

Above all, Sex & The Office is proof, if any were needed, that The Great Workplace Equality Project has spectacularly backfired. Who, precisely, wins if men are terrified of lawsuits and women are falling behind as a consequence?

In this toxic, paranoid environment, women will never be trusted as advisers. They will be frozen out of networks – or, increasingly, create their own women-only networks, which on the surface promise advancement yet deep down increase gender separatism. Would the single-sex workplaces of the 1940s be safer for all?

This is the bed Third Wave feminism has made. Now we all have to lie in it: wide-awake, hearts racing, eyes wide open, waiting for the lawyers to come hammering at our doors.

Is that our collective future – one called “Fear And Loathing In Human Resources?” How can we make this waking nightmare end?

The Telegraph

17 thoughts on “Well done, feminism. Now men are afraid to help women at work

  1. For me, the saddest story of the day. My opinion is that Chivalry is from God and it shows in nature: men have more prominent features, a sign of leadership and determinism. How do we rescue chivalry?


  2. I try to arrange to be out of the house when the cleaning girl is here, and if I could find a male to clean this place, she’d be fired in a heartbeat.

    With the economy crashing as it is, I worry that some kind of lawsuit might be her only route to financial survival, and if she concocts a good story, she might get my house while I sit in jail. Unchaperoned females are a huge legal risk.

    1. What a tragic situation, Jolly. I know many brothers in a similar dilemma. Demon CIA Gloria Steinem, turnin’ women into devils.

      Look here at her own words, where she invalidates the other half of the creation:

      “Men are victims of their own impulses.”
      — Gloria Steimen

      “Men may feel just disempowered by intimacy, by being close to a woman, and also by feeling the tender feelings that they’re ashamed of.”
      — Gloria Steimen

      “Men should think twice before making widowhood women’s only path to power.”
      — Gloria Steimen

      “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.”
      — Gloria Steimen

      I hate her. And I reject her legacy and will speak out against it whenever I can. I think my dad is counting on me for this.



      1. yeah, Gloria Steinem has a lot of bad stuff to say about men, but she never considers that maybe it’s just the men she’s attracted to that are bad.

        She’s just a Zionist mouthpiece whose job is to cause division between men and women.

        It’s no surprise. The Zionists do everything they can to promote homosexuality, and everything they can to make heterosexuality illegal.

  3. “By carrying on like this we are nurturing and mollycoddling victimhood…”

    BINGO!!! NAILED IT!!!!!

    Communism 101.

  4. Don’t even mention those actually broken down and left by the side of the road, cause there’s no way I’d get my damned self involved in some scam. The good old days are long gone. I’ll call a tow truck, but ain’t getting out the car. I will gladly help a dude, just couldn’t afford the legal costs of helping the wrong woman.

  5. Never had a problem helping a female pass a range test. Feminist or not. They both look your way to make sure the holes are correct according to the target. Then they catch on.

    You can’t keep enough ammo on the table. Chivalry isn’t reloading mags. Load those yourself. It’s a teach a man how to fish thing applied to females.

    1. But one doesn’t have to cancel out the other. Chivalry can live along side a woman capable of using a fire arm.


      1. I’ve seriously thought about asking S&W for a commission. Every female I’ve taken to pick a compact handgun. It’s a Shield. I shoot Glock. You’d think my bias would effect the decision of the out come. Nope. The Smith is it. It’s nice to have different chromosomes. Makes life interesting.

  6. The brits are effeminate to no end. I’d hold a door for anyone. Unless I don’t like them already. Then I’d look them in the eye and drop the door a foot early.

    Being friendly and being sexist is a far difference. Just don’t stare at their tits when you do it. Or play grab ass.

    I am naturally an arms length person. If you get closer than that you will notice i care not for it. Brush your teeth and stay at arms length. Then I’ll only judge by the stupid that resonates from your mind.

  7. If women want to be men, leaving home, hearth, and children to be raised by the state, why would a man be obligated to help her in her job. She should be just as qualified as the men working there.

    What ever happened to women marrying young, starting a family and letting her man win the bread?

    Men may be wary in the office but not on the streets. They open doors and offer to lift heavy items and stop when car problems have arisen.

    1. You speak of the nuclear family. Something they hate the most. They’ve made it almost impossible to exist financially, to include corrupting the very definition. It’s a foundation of your culture. The easiest target.

      Communist are some……very difficult individuals. Your folkways and mores are the enemy to the cause.

  8. Companies should hire Harvey Weinstein to how to properly help women in the work place. They could use his video on what not to do!

    After all this ugly as hell predator Jew pig is what brought this all on.

    1. He’ll be in the next corporate training video from HR on how to…or not sexually herrazz women in the work place.

      Ya know the …here’s the training manual for our corporate policy employee handbook.

      Well here’s the bottom line…

      We told you about it….
      We do it.
      But just don’t get caught.

      Or we’ll flush you like diarrhea if you start naming names.

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